Anxiety comes in all forms. Whether you are struggling to finish an essay for school or experiencing stress from a sickness, anxiety can attack from all different aspects of life. In fact, anybody who has experienced anxiety (and that is everyone) has experience the affect that it can have on a life.
Anxiety also affects people of all ages. For example, a mother may experience stress from her leaving her child at a day care center. Conversely, the child may experience separation anxiety, a form of anxiety associated with being apart from a place or person.
The stress of a mother dealing with separation anxiety in her child can be overwhelming. While she is trying to live her daily life, seeing the crying face of her child can indeed induce stress. The guilt and stress associated with separation anxiety in her child can impair her ability to function as a member of society. Now say that you are that mother. What can you do to combat separation anxiety in your child?
Separation anxiety in a child can be very common, usually occurring at any age in child development. A baby may cry incessantly in the absence of her mom and her breast milk. A young child may cry out when left at the mercy of a babysitter on a Saturday night. This can be an extremely draining problem for mothers, causing unnecessary stress.
So how can you fight separation anxiety and rid your life of the stress associated with it? The rest of this article gives you a few tips to do so:
- Develop traditions to ease your child into expecting separation. Establishing a ritual on a daily basis helps the child transition from constant attention to separation. You may be able to find a tradition that works for you and your child. Be sure to stress the tradition in your child, whether it is a special goodbye wave or a behavioral ritual such as a hug and a kiss on the forehead.
- Always be as positive as you can, despite the separation anxiety you may be feeling by saying bye to your children. A child can easily read your mood, so smile and speak positively so that your child can run off and play happily instead of crying. Set a positive example for your child, even if you are sad.
- Don’t linger! When separating from your child, make sure that your goodbye is quick and swift. When you leave, don’t show your face to your child, as it will only make the separation harder. Keep the separation to the best of your ability!
- A decision that you will have to make is whether or not to distract your child and sneak out. Leaving while they are sleeping or distracted can lower the chance of a crying fit, but may add additional stress to you.
- Recognize triggers that cause anxiousness. For example, if your child always has trouble separating during rainy days, it may benefit you to stress extra care on that day